Please Don't {The Dating Game}

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As you all know, well hopefully know, I am single, perputally single I like to say. I was thinking for a while of coming up with some new blog posts linked to that. I finally got around to writing it down to make myself remember so welcome all to the


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My number one most hated question I get is "So do you date black guys?" I'm always asked this by a black or African-American gentleman and my response is "I don't care if you are purple."

I actually don't care at all what color you are, what race, ethnicity, etc. What I do care about is being asked that question. Why? Because it makes me feel uncomfortable. You are not a black guy, you are a guy. A guy who I thought was attractive or funny or smart or whatever that made me actually talk with you. But once you ask me that question I immediately lose interest. I feel and even Morgan Freeman has stated the same, that if we keep acknowledging a different we make one. We are all one race as far as I'm concerned the human race.

PS technically I'm biracial as I am part Cherokee, and my daughter is half Puerto Rican. I really don't care what you are as long as I like you. 

Which then leads into that I am pansexual. Meaning I love who I love. I don't care their gender, sexual orientation, I just plain old like/love who I like/love. I'm attracted to the person.

So then I get asked "So you're bi right?" No I am not bisexual, if I was I would have said so, I'm pansexual. "What's the difference?" Bisexuals like both male and female, because they are attracted to both male and female. I on the other hand am just attracted to what I like, not the gender.

"So you just like to have sex, not really date then huh?"


HELL NO! While yes I do enjoy sex, very much so. I love to date, I love romance even though I'm an incredible idiot that giggles and goes what you mean you like me, I still love romance.

Once we get over the hurdle of my sexual preference, it then moves to the couple question. "So my girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/etc really wants to try a threesome would you be interested?" No. I'm sorry. First off that is not a play thing, I don't just be like oh threesome yeah! Or so sex let's do it. I want more than that. So unless I am your wife/girlfriend/etc don't bother asking me about that, cause it's out of the question.

Then we get the random "Oh I'm bi-curious too." No you are an idiot. I'm not bi-curious. I am pansexual. There is no such thing as bi-curious, you are just doing it to make guys think you are cool. I mean have you ever heard of a homosexual saying "I'm straight-curious" no because it's ridiculous. Or the ever so popular, "this is just a phase" no it's not. It is who I am. It was how I was born. Is your heterosexuality a phase? No then why in the hell would mine be a phase? Again you are an idiot, move on.

"Do you do this for attention?" Yes I completely want the attention of being attracted to a member of the same gender of me because we are oh so nice to homosexuals. No you are an idiot. I do this because, bare with me, it is WHO I AM.

"When you find the right man you will settle down and stop this craziness." Ok now you are half right here. Yes I said half right. When I find the right PERSON I will settle down. I will not be constantly looking for a girlfriend if I have a boyfriend, or vice versa. If I'm with someone I am with them because they are who I am attracted to, who I love, who I care about. Now this person may or may not be a male, or a female, or a transgender, or who knows, because I haven't met them yet.

And then we come to my favorite question. "What are you teaching your children?"


You want to know what I am teaching my children? I am teaching them that loves comes in all forms. That love isn't based on what is between someone's legs. I am teaching them that I won't condemn them for loving whoever they love. I am teaching them to be themselves. And that is the best lesson I can teach them.



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Summer Movie at the Library

Newburgh Free Library will be showing Divergent


On Thursday August 21st at 6pm



It's All Selfish {Down the Rabbit Hole}

One thing I am so tired of seeing lately is about how selfish it was for Robin Williams to commit suicide. Some people say how it's not selfish at all. While I know they mean well I have a different view on it, as someone who struggles with depression and thoughts of not necessarily suicide but just ceasing to live.


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Syrups and Sauces Oh My!



So while I am still waiting for a latte k-cup (seriously if there's one please tell me) you can buy syrups and sauces on the Starbucks store online. But wait for it... they are on sale right now. Save 15% on Starbucks Syrups & Sauces! Valid 8/12 - 8/17/14. Which is almost as good. Some strong coffee, creamer, and a pump or two of vanilla syrup. Yum!

Being Silly {Down the Rabbit Hole}


I know you're probably like ummm being silly, down the rabbit hole, how do those things go together. But at least in my case they go together quite often. Which is probably why I keep trying to tell my therapist and shrink that I think I'm bipolar. I bounce from up to down, I spiral downwards, but I rocket upwards.

Mermaid Bokeh


This land bound mermaid was at it again. I really love having a case that is waterproof, even if I'm still getting the hang of underwater photos. Not only do I get to take pictures of the wonderful bokeh effect light has by being filtered by water, but I get to take pictures of me and the kids in the water.

Doing What's Best

Doing what's best even when it breaks your heart.

Moon in a Cup is my photography business


As a parent you know there are some pretty tough times, and rough choices to make. As a single parent you have double the tough times, double the rough choices. And most of the time those choices will break your heart.

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